Every time I watch the sea, I feel so free. I think of how all the things I consider important don’t matter at all. Whether it’s getting stressed at work, running after what has to be done by the end of the day or pretending to be someone bigger and better just to get more likes and follow on social media. Can we use social media to be happy?
When I get unsettled and nervous for no reason, feel down because I am not as successful or pretty as my peers, I remember to go back to the basics. By basics, I mean to things that really matter – such as my health, happy marriage, or our healthy daughter. I try to think about something to be grateful for and even if it is just the fact that I am alive, I have a roof over my head and food in the fridge, I start feeling better.
I feel like we are continually running somewhere and nowhere. Time is getting faster, and I am growing older. I realized that I had a responsibility to manage my time the way I want and for my benefit. That’s why I criticize the pressure of social media.
Instead of find ways to be more connected and to use social media to be happy, we use them to our detriment. The more time I spent liking, commenting, and admiring someone else’s perfect life, the more lonely and depressed I feel.
Why are we pushed to believe that success on social media is important? It has nothing to do with our real lives. If you lose your job, get divorced, or lose a parent, what will social media give you?
That being said, I do think there is a way to use social media to be happy. Choose people that you follow wisely. Look for accounts that are inspiring and positive. Unfollow and ignore those that make you feel lesser, competitive, ugly, or unworthy.
I unfollowed all those perfect blogger moms with multiple kids, perfect body, long straight hair, and a huge house. It is not healthy for me to watch their version of reality. I don’t follow Kardashians or bloggers who are half my age and show a luxury lifestyle that doesn’t resonate with me. I decided to let them go in peace. I don’t need to know how many Gucci bags they have or wonder how come that they don’t work. I leave these worries to others.
By using social media consciously, I became the captain of my time. I have a limit of thirty minutes per day, like photos of people that I like as humans. I look for inspiration on how to live a more wholesome and ethical life. I feel at peace. I think the same as when I watch the sea. Relaxed, whole, and free.
How do you feel about social media? What do you do to keep your mental health in check? Let me know in the comments below.