In this video, I will share with you three tips on how to find true love and how you can do the same.
1. My first advice is to “get real”. Stop looking for perfection.
As the most popular accounts on social media feature perfect people, one can’t be surprised that we consider normal choosing our dates by swiping right or left based on physical appearance.
I can’t help but wonder how it influences the young and restless generation. I know several men in their forties who have been looking for the woman of their life for years. When they find the woman that fulfills their criteria, they are always surprised that they don’t like her persona. The lesson here is that beauty is only skin deep. And personally, every time I meet a person who is obsessed with a search for the physically perfect person, they turn out weird.
My mom, who likes to psychoanalyze current society, would add that such men may also fear death. They may even believe that a younger and more beautiful partner will help them live longer.
2. Advice number two: get out!
Stop sitting at home, spending free time scrolling through Instagram or Facebook, binge-watching series on Netflix, or playing videogames. You need to get out and mingle. If you want to find the right partner, you need to get social. The other day I watched a documentary about men who marry and live with plastic dolls instead of women. I am not surprised. We are the most connected, fast-paced, but also distracted society with a short attention span. It seems easier to look for quick pleasure offered by online dating apps instead of making some effort necessary to keep a long-term relationship alive. And that applies to couples – put your phones down, switch off the TV and start talking. It is shocking that we find it easier to share our inner feelings with strangers on the Internet instead of the person sitting next to us.
3. Advice number three – is to stop looking for someone to complete you. The only one who can complete you is you yourself. If you need someone else to feel loved and fullfiled, you are giving away your power.
It took me 30 years to learn this lesson. I dated men and even married one that didn’t love me. They loved who I was with them. I was so scared that they would like the real me that I never show myself. I agreed to do things that I didn’t want to do just to please the other person. I had to fall to the bottom and identify why I hated myself so much that I would do anything to be loved. I found the way out through therapy, meditation, and focusing on living in the present. I found the men of my life where I least expected it once I learned to be happy with who I was. I met him when I was not looking for anyone. I was happily single.
Thus, the most crucial key to finding true love is to start loving yourself. Learning to love who you are is not selfish. It’s healthy. If you don’t see your value, no one will.
Be gentle with yourself.
Spend time alone.
Connect with what you love, write down your dreams and find spiritual guidance, whether it’s by believing in God, trusting the Universe, guardian angels, or in your Higher Self. Spiritual practice makes us whole and humble. If you want to find true love, stop looking for it and start appreciating yourself, and the right partner will find a way to you.
The only way to find true love and build a healthy and long-lasting love relationship is if we choose with our hearts. One should look for qualities such as being able to listen, being compassionate, understanding, self-aware, respectful, and grounded. Stop looking for a perfect partner. They don’t exist. Instead, look a person that wants to be with you through thick and thin, a partner that will listen to you and be present. Especially now, in the age of the Internet and social media, and we’re constantly bombarded by alerts and news, giving someone your full, undivided attention is priceless.
So what do you think about these tips on how to find true love? DO you find them helpful? Let me know in the comments below.