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Does Instagram Make You Feel Like a Loser?

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If your answer is yes, then you should take an Instagram break and listen to an episode from Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations with Devon Franklin. I am going to be honest, in the last few months, I have felt anger and disappointment towards social media.


Because every time I was on Instagram, I felt like a loser. Seeing other people’s perfect lives and polished photos made me feel inferior. One day, though, I looked at the whole “issue” differently – are those people happy? Is their marriage working? And more importantly, I asked myself why I kept following people that made me feel so bad.

I am so glad I got to that stage since, at that moment, I realized how hooked I was, and asked myself what type of content made me feel well. And those inspiring quotes, other moms who were authentically sharing their life and spiritual teachers. I deleted all accounts that made me feel bad and jealous and decided to focus on creating positive and empowering content. First, I started with a 21-day #gratitudechallenge on Instagram, which had a great response from my audience. I stopped sharing photos that I knew would perform well, began writing more extended captions, shared my daily struggles. I started sharing what I would love to read.

I did lose one collaboration with a luxury hotel (because I don’t promote luxury lifestyle anymore) but got the opportunity to work with brands that resonate with me. I still use social media but don’t get hooked on it anymore as I don’t believe what others are trying to sell me. I can look at it, like it but I am not going to feel bad just because your life looks better on the picture.

We all have different experiences and journeys based on what we’re supposed to learn and how we’re supposed to grow in this life. If it looks that someone is doing better on Instagram, than it’s their journey. My journey is the one that I am taking every day, step by step. Maybe my purpose is to keep working in the humanitarian field and not as a blogger. I have a regular income, friendly office, wonderful colleagues, fixed hours, a great husband and daughter, and we are all healthy.

Alongside this journey, I learned my lessons, grew through my struggles, and changed. If it were not for those ups and downs, I wouldn’t be where I am now. And when I look at it, that’s all I have to do. All that’s expected of me is to be here and accept what is, and to stop projecting what should or could be, what was, and who did me wrong. Just be in the moments. And the funny thing about it is that such a simple thing is quite hard.

  • jodie filogomo

    It can be frustrating. Not looking at other’s photos so much but how slowly I grow. At least you have a huge following Miri.

    • Miri

      Well, it’s relative. I compare myself to those who started later and have 3 times more followers now. I keep going up and down but right now, I just give up and post what I really want to post – not what will perform well.

      P.S. I like how you, your mom and your grandma are original and unique! You rock! XO

  • Sonja Grampp

    Miriam, not ALL of us like the polished Posts…not at all. And luxury is boring anyway…Cause Money can’t buy us love..We all know that! It just looks good.

    Stay as you are and keep on doing what you do! It’s important!

    • Miri

      I totally agree with you, Sonja ;-)))happy Tuesday!


  • Jennifer

    Beautifully written Miri! I have a love hate relationship with Instagram. It does make me feel like a loser because I cannot seem to stay at 19K. And my reach sucks!

    Effortlessly Sophisticated

    • Miri

      If it helps, I love your account. It’s authentic and real. I was annoyed with not getting over 100K while everyone who started at the same time as me or even later did. And I’ve been on Instagram for 6 years. Now, I gave up and really post what I want to see, not what everyone else is doing.


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