Parenthood is deep. It’s raw, encompassing and no one can take it away from you. It’s the biggest lesson and opportunity to grow, do your best and experience feelings in its essence. It’s an opportunity to bridge misunderstandings with your own parents as it fills you with compassion and understanding. As you make faults, you begin to understand your parents. And as much as I don’t want to be like my mom, it’s crazy to see how much I resemble her.
If you feel enlightened, you should spend some time with your parents.
We’ve just left Chloe-Sofia at my parent’s for two weeks and I feel sad. We did not have any other choice- in Switzerland, daycares close for several weeks in summer but we have to go to work. It’s the same type of pain that I used to feel when I was going through a breakup. It’s bittersweet and makes so much sense: when you’re going through a breakup, you feel that a part of you “died”. As dramatic as it may sound, your child is a part of you. There’s this special, irreplaceable, invisible, emotional connection. It’s hard to explain but those who have children understand what I mean.
As much as I was looking forward to having some time for myself, to edit videos that I didn’t get a chance to work on and spending some quality time with Alex as a couple, I still miss her. I did expect that I was going to feel some level of sadness but not such a deep depth.
One of the things that I realized when we’re at my parents last weekend was that I still have a lot to work on. It was the first time that I didn’t fight with my mom. I saw the situation “coming” and I managed to step out. Osho said that if you feel enlightened, you should spend some time with your parents. I could not agree more. Every time I am with them, it’s like standing in front of the mirror. They reflect what I need to work on and keep pushing my buttons.
How do you deal with your parents or close-ones pushing your pain points? What helps you to step out of the situation?