For the sake of this article, let’s imagine I am a single 25-year-old woman, working and living in a city. Is it possible to find love off the grid? I mean without using the apps that have been making buzz lately? If I don’t buy cheap tickets on Easyjet, book accommodation on Airbnb, uber around the city (yes, it is a verb now!) or look for a mate on Tinder, can I find love?
As much as I try, I don’t get Tinder. Here it is, out in the open. I really don’t get it. Are we looking for love so desperately that we don’t even realize that the joke is on us? You can’t find love on Tinder. It is like going to McDonald’s and expect that you will get a Michelin-starred dish. Has the consumerism in our society gotten so bad that we consider swiping through foreign faces of our potential matches normal? Has love became an easy commodity that you can acquire in one swap and tap? I think we have higher tolerance to weird behavior than the generations before us. We are constantly “on” Facebook/ Instagram / Tinder but we are never “here”. Why?
Because we don’t have the time! All we want is to swipe and order in seconds without thinking. And as you want it asap, you work on several different matches at once. And why not? You can’t put all your eggs in one basket. We are Millennials, not Baby Boomers or Generation X. But here lays the problem- the more possibilities you have, the harder it is to choose.
While women who sign up to dating apps are (most of the time) looking for a relationship, most men are looking for sex. I am judging based on several documentaries and chats with friends who are younger than me and Tinder active. And herein lies my problem – if I meet someone and we start dating, how can I be sure that he does not continue to “tinder” around the town? It is easy when all you need is a mobile phone and your credit card.
So how would I look for love? Would I ask my friends to introduce me to someone single or try speed dating? I really don’t know. I think it is hard to find the right person. You have to know what type of person you are looking for, you must be very precise and you must know what you can and can not accept. You have to respect yourself and know your own value. And most of all, you have to be patient. It may take time but as they say, hope is the last to die.
H&M tunic (similar), Céline handbag and Gabor ballerinas, Bucherer bracelet and necklace.
Photos by Alexander Ramp.