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PLAYING BIG

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cropped top/ mici/ Currently Wearing

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Top: MICI Made in Cote D’Ivoire; Pants: s.Oliver, similar (previously seen here); Heels: Topshop, similar style; Bag: Chanel, affordable version

Photo by Alexander Ramp


This week I was inspired by an interview with Tara Mohr, author of Playing Big: Find Your Voice, Your Mission, Your Message. I totally agree with her thoughts on our inner critic and why women fall short of supporting each other.  I read her ten principles for brilliant women which are something I needed to hear lately. They say that things come to you at the right time and I think this book was what I needed this week. So I decided to share the principles with you hoping that they will inspire you as well!

Happy weekend and thank you for stopping by!

10 RULES

1. Make a pact. No one else is going to build the life you want for you. No one else will even be able to completely understand it. The most amazing souls will show up to cheer you on along the way, but this is your game. Make a pact to be in it with yourself for the long haul, as your own supportive friend at every step along the way.

2. Imagine it. What does a knock-the-ball-out-of-the-park life look like for you? What is the career that seems so incredible you think it’s almost criminal to have it? What is the dream you don’t allow yourself to even consider because it seems too unrealistic, frivolous, or insane? Start envisioning it. That’s the beginning of having it.

3. Gasp. Start doing things that make you gasp and get the adrenalin flowing. Ask yourself, “What’s the gasp-level action here?” Your fears and a tough inner critic will chatter in your head. That’s normal, and just fine. When you hear that repetitive, irrational, mean inner critic, name it for what it is, and remember, it’s just a fearful liar, trying to protect you from any real or seeming risks. Go for the gasps and learn how false your inner critic’s narrative really is, and how conquerable your fears.

4. Get a thick skin. If you take risks, sometimes you’ll get a standing ovation, and sometimes, people will throw tomatoes. Can you think of any leader or innovator whom you admire who doesn’t have enthusiastic fans and harsh critics? Get used to wins and losses, praise and pans, getting a call back and being ignored. Work on letting go of needing to be liked and needing to be universally known as “a nice person.”

5. Be an arrogant idiot. Of course I know you won’t, because you never could. But please, just be a little more of an arrogant idiot. You know those guys around the office who share their opinions without thinking, who rally everyone around their big, (often unformed) ideas? Be more like them. Even if just a bit. You can afford to move a few inches in that direction.

6. Question the voice that says “I’m not ready yet.” I know, I know. Because you are so brilliant and have such high standards, you see every way that you could be more qualified. You notice every part of your idea that is not perfected yet. While you are waiting to be ready, gathering more experience, sitting on your ideas, our friends referenced in rule five are being anointed industry visionaries, getting raises, and seeing their ideas come to life in the world. They are no more ready than you, and perhaps less. Jump in the sandbox now, and start playing full out. Find out just how ready you are.

7. Don’t wait for your Oscar. Don’t wait to be praised, anointed, or validated. Don’t wait for someone to give you permission to lead. Don’t wait for someone to invite you to share your voice. No one is going to discover you. (Well, actually, they will, but paradoxically, only after you’ve started boldly and consistently stepping into leadership, sharing your voice, and doing things that scare the hell out of you.)

8. Filter advice. Most brilliant women are humble and open to guidance. We want to gather feedback and advice. Fine, but recognize that some people won’t understand what you are up to (often because you are saying something new and ahead of your time). Some people will find you to be not their cup of tea. Some will feel threatened. Some people will want to do with your idea only what is interesting or helpful to them. So interpret feedback carefully. Test advice and evaluate the results, rather than following it wholesale.

9. Recover and restore. If you start doing the things that make you gasp, doing what you don’t quite feel ready to do, and being more of an arrogant idiot, you are going to be stretching out of our comfort zone–a lot. Regularly do things that feel safe, cozy, and restorative. Vent to friends when you need to. Acknowledge the steps you’ve taken. Watch your tank to see how much risk-taking juice you have available to you. When it’s running low, stop, recover and restore.

10. Let other women know they are brilliant. Let them know what kind of brilliance you see, and why it’s so special. Call them into greater leadership and action. Let them know that they are ready. Watch out for that subtle, probably unconscious thought, “because I had to struggle and suffer on my way up…they should have to too.” Watch out for thinking this will “take” too much time — when the truth is it always has huge, often unexpected returns.

– (Original text at Tara Mohr’s site http://www.taramohr.com/).

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6 Comments
  • Shoshana
    09.02.2015

    That pant is gorgeous. I love the volume & high waistline. You styled it well keeping to top short and fitted. Such a cute look.
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  • Erica Kato
    09.02.2015

    Loving those rules! And great outfit- you’re gorgeous!

    xo | The Fashion Forecast

  • Diana Gavrilina
    08.02.2015

    Great post, love rule 2! Also love your look and how you styled it x

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  • Helen Chik-Dohrmann
    08.02.2015

    These are truly inspiration rules hun! Bookmarked this post so I can reflect back on it. Thanks for sharing this beautiful.

    You look fantastic btw.

    Helen xx
    http://CH1K.com

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  • Megan
    06.02.2015

    this is a great interview! I also love love love your cute crop top!
    I’m doing a $400 Visa GC giveaway on Instagram today! @poshprime
    ~~Megan~~
    http://www.poshprime.com

  • Michael
    06.02.2015

    Such an inspiration..and not only for women!
    Btw., I feel little bit cold when watching your photo.. =D but that top is cute and in summer it should be worn more often 😉

    Happy sunny weekend,
    XO from Prague
    Michael
    http://www.ontheleaf.net

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