As part of our Thoughts series, I would like to share with you articles that made me feel better and come back to the hear & now. Connecting to our Childhood was originally published on Sandra Fazio’s The Conscious Parent Blog. You can learn more about Sandra at the end of this article.
So much of who we are and how we show up as adults derives from our childhood and the environment in which we were raised – including but not limited to: our self-beliefs, our behaviors, our choices, our personality-type, our decisions, our emotions, our affection.
Our childhood is the foundation in which we build and are taught about faith, morals, values, integrity, beliefs, dreams, relationships and the overall understanding of life and love. And when any of these “ingredients” of life are missing, misguided or neglected, it can alter the foundation in which we navigate through the rest of our life journey and affect generations to follow.
It sometimes takes years upon years to truly connect our self-understanding of “who we are” in relation to our childhood and past experiences. Partly because we are living day to day with our eyes closed to ourselves – looking outward instead of inward for the answers. Over time our life events and the decisions we have made compound and we still have an inner child that craves the love, validation, acceptance, guidance, who seeks the answers so they can be heard and seen in their truest life form.
What I find oddly interesting is that we (society) are more intrigued by figuring out “who” others are. We are interested in their lives, before we really get to the bottom of our own. Today’s “reality” shows (like the Kardashians – which are an entertaining mecca and joke in my opinion) depict nothing “real” about life itself. Everything is for the pure fame, profit and media ratings.
It’s no mystery in my opinion why there is so much dysfunction in our world today. The time we give to watching these shows, we could be using to get “real” with our own lives. Growing our inner being, heeding our true calling and fixing the cracks in our own foundation so that the infrastructures we put on top are solid, strong, sturdy, reliable, withholding and capable of weathering our own storms of life.
No matter how difficult it may be at times, in order to unfold the conscious self, we must become fully aware in connecting our childhood to our adulthood experiences so we stay in true form, can listen and follow our hearts, and change behaviors or limited-self beliefs that don’t nurture our souls anymore. We are given an opportunity every day through our actions to set the stage / foundation for our children.
We have the ability to start with a fresh canvas and paint the picture of what we desire our family life to be for ourselves and children. If we think back to something in our childhood that did not serve us well, we can change the scenery on our canvas by using a different brushstroke. Use your life’s painting as the example you want your children to reference in their minds as they begin the canvas of their lives.
After consciously leaving the corporate world in 2012 when her daughter turned one, Sandra Fazio began letting go of all she thought she needed “to do” and gave permission to the Universe to “let be” what was meant for her life.
Two years later, after enduring more challenges and anxiety in her new-found motherhood journey than she ever expected, Sandra was greatly inspired by Dr. Shefali Tsabary’s interview with Oprah on Super Soul Sunday on her book The Conscious Parent. She knew this was the Universe’s message for Sandra to serve her life’s calling and purpose. Sandra found her daughter was “raising her” in ways she never thought possible and was about to experience her own re-birthing and metamorphosis into motherhood to meet and embrace her daughter’s essence for all she came into this life to be, serve and teach her.
Sandra is a Parent / Life Coach, Author and Founder of The Conscious Parent Blog and brings an authentic, open and honest heart to each connection in her life. Her offering is to expand and deepen the conversations around conscious parenting for all parents and parent-type figures. To raise our collective self-awareness and to make this world better for our children to live and lead and for generations to come.
You can connect with Sandra further through her Facebook Page The Conscious Parent OR her personal website The Conscious Parent Blog. If you are looking for insights and strategies on how to support your continued transformation into conscious parenting, Sandra welcomes you to contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org.